"Likewise, ye younger, submit yourselves unto the elder. Yea, all of you be subject one to another, and be clothed with humility: for God resisteth the proud, and giveth grace to the humble."

How we feel about the word "submissive" is determined by how we feel about ourselves. It's good to have someone serve us, but it's difficult to serve someone else. We frequently behave as though we only care about ourselves. But God works against anyone who is arrogant and refuses to serve others, particularly if those "others" are fellow Christians! We should put on humility on purpose, even though it is difficult to put on the clothing our Father has given us.